Developer: Ken Wong
Launcher Quote: “On July 10 we change the flowers, to remember her.”
There’s a curious kind of ebb and flow when it comes to the pain we feel over losing someone precious to us when it is still fresh in our minds – fresh being the first few years or so. We feel that pain keenly and sharply when it first occurs, let it ebb a bit as we eventually get on with our lives, and then feel it distinctly again when the anniversary of that loss passes by us again. During this time, I’ve found that people tend to attach a bit of ritual to the process of remembering this lost person, whether it’s a visit somewhere, an activity once shared, or in the case of the developer, a changing of flowers.
On one level, a simple changeout of flowers that have wilted and need to be replaced is a task that doesn’t seem to carry too much significance or effort. After all, the replacement of flowers is an activity that doesn’t seem to carry with it much effort. But as with a lot of things that we do, it’s not the complexity or the time taken that matters with an action we take, but the significance, or emotional weight that we attach to it. Something as simple as changing flowers could mean so much more than what it is on the surface – a reminder of something they may have done having to do with flowers for example, or a symbol of keeping the memory of the person fresh, or as a way of honoring them with something beautiful.
Regardless of what it is, I’m reminded of the fact that any action you take when you’re trying to remember someone is an action taken out of respect for the life that that person led, and of the importance with which they were a part of yours. It’s in this vein that I think that no matter what someone does to celebrate someone’s life, that the important thing is that they do something at all. Flowers, though a more traditional way of doing this, are nevertheless one of the most recognized ways that you can remember and honor someone that’s no longer with us, and they have the dual function, through their brief lives, of providing symbolism of how we grow, thrive, and eventually pass on. Sometimes, simplicity is best.